Secrets aren’t usually a good thing, but when it comes to the big proposal moment, keeping your plans a secret is a tradition. Without her help, however, it’s up to you to find out her ring size and preferred ring style, not to mention getting everything set up for the proposal itself. If you don’t have any experience with jewelry shopping, finding the perfect ring can be nerve-racking.
Luckily, you don’t have to be a jewelry expert to find a ring she’ll love. Asking a professional jeweler for help can ease your burden. There are also plenty of other proven ways to get the right-sized ring while keeping your plan under wraps. If you want to give your partner the surprise of a lifetime, follow these tried-and-true engagement ring shopping tips.
Use your methods of deduction to find rings that your partner wears on their ring finger. You can either borrow it for future reference or trace its outline if you think she’ll miss the piece. If you can’t find a ring finger, choose any other ring but let the jeweler know which ring you’re referencing. If tracing, draw the circle inside and outside of the ring on a piece of paper multiple times to get a clear and visible outline.
If your partner doesn’t have any rings for reference or you can’t manage to borrow one, you can plan a situation ahead of time where she’ll have to reveal her ring size. Head to a thrift store or open-market where you may find jewelry or jewelry vendors. Nudge your partner over to the jewelry section and offer to buy them a ring as a simple token of affection. As your partner tries on different options, pay attention to the size of the ring, which is usually visible on the ring itself or near it on the display box.
Ask for Help
You don’t have to go at it completely alone. Ask your partner’s friends and family if they know your partner’s ring size. Parents, siblings, and friends may know this tidbit from previous gifts they’ve given. You can even concoct a plan where a friend or parent asks your partner for their ring size and act like they’re planning on buying her a fashion ring. Of course, only ask if you are comfortable revealing the secret to your chosen confidant. Choose someone who you know will not purposely or accidentally divulge your plans.
If you absolutely can’t zero in on a close ring size estimate, the safest bet is to get a ring sized slightly larger than your partner’s ring finger circumference. Often, many jewelers will offer a complimentary resizing service in case the engagement ring is too big. Going too small, however, is more difficult to fix since a jeweler will have to add more metal to make it larger. Keep in mind, it’s nearly impossible to resize rings that have accent stones on the shank. This hack works best with classic solitaire rings.
You can still create a thoughtful proposal even if you choose to directly ask her for her ring size. If you’ve been together long enough, the topic of marriage has probably already come up. In fact, having an honest conversation about your future together can set you up for success instead of worrying whether they’ll say yes. You still have complete control over the location, date, and every other detail to create a memorable experience.
Trust the Experts
If all else fails, ask the jewelry experts. Ella Rose Jewelry’s master jewelers have over 30 years of experience handcrafting ethically-sourced metals and gemstones in a range of captivating designs. Our experienced artisans can take the time to guide you toward a perfect or near-perfect sized engagement ring. Spend your time and money wisely all while creating the perfect moment to ask your partner’s hand in marriage.